My husband is risking his job for a piece of *ss and I need help!!?

You are 100% right. His actions are TOTALLY unacceptable. He is not only jeopardizing his job, but his marriage as well. Surely you find his behaviour completely hurtful and just plain wrong toward you, his WIFE. It sounds like you could do much better than this man, and one day he will probably push you far enough you will get the chance to find someone who honours his vows and treats you with a little respect.